The other day I was leaving my office and a co-worker looked at me and said, “Cole, how do you spell pepperoni?”
Well as I went on to spell the word out loud, I quickly learned that I had been misspelling this pizza topping for about a month in our skype conversations. When asked why he never told me earlier, my Co-Worker simply said “Well, I know some people don’t like critiques.”
Now the internet is full of commenters and trolls, people who will say nasty things about us online but are afraid to speak up when they see us face to face. In general, let’s be honest the internet has developed a world of snarkism where anyone can hide behind an avatar and this has even bled to the offline world.
Many of us these days are afraid to speak up and tell someone that they are wrong or that something is broken. This needs to be fixed, as we need to learn that it’s okay to critique. That it’s okay to tell someone that something is wrong. Knowing this though, it’s important that we learn to critique the right way.
The right way of critiquing is simply this: “praise in public and criticize in private.” Scott Stratten, a social media pundit, always calls people out when he sees public scrutiny, “Don’t be the Jackass Whisperer” he always says.
This quote “Don’t be a jackass whisperer” is right. Yelling and critiquing someone in public, is just plain wrong and rude. If you do see something wrong, send the person a private message or pull them aside. We are all aware, that we are not perfect, well unless you’re this guy.
So next time you see something wrong, a grammatical error, a roll of toilet paper stuck to someone’s shoe, a t-shirt inside out, let the person know, by doing this, you’re helping the person out in the long term and probably actually making a relationship in the process. Most importantly though, when you do reach out to this person remember DON’T BE THE JACKASS WHISPERER.