Advice for a new Civilian.

So as of yesterday my brother is no longer employed by the United States Air Force.

He is still considered on Active Duty, until the end of next month, but that’s simply for “paperwork” and financial reasons.

He’s currently in the process of moving to Charlotte, NC after living in Clayton, NC for the last year. Though he’s been in Clayton, the previous four years were spent overseas, making him miss out on many of the crazy hardships that many of us have had to survive though the last few years.

So as he’s about to begin his new journey to being a Civilian once again, do you have any Advice for him? What do you recommend for a 25 year old, who plans on going to College in a big city, where he knows nobody at all?
My recommendation was to get into Twitter and network with people, but any other suggestions? We’re all ears?

8 thoughts on “Advice for a new Civilian.

  1. I agree with ya, Cole. I don’t do Twitter but I do know Facebook is great, not really to meet new people but to reconnect with old friends and chances are that he already knows someone from his past that has lived there for a while. Other than that…if he doesn’t have a TomTom or something equivalent it would be a great (and not very expensive) investment. While my husband was sick I spend all kinds of time in Charlotte and with the internet and a navigator it’s not difficult to find anything. Another thing that helped me when I moved to California was I found a regular “hangout”. I lived in a huge apartment complex and we had a coffee shop so in my free time, instead of sitting in my apartment reading or what ever, I’d take my book or a magazine and sit in the coffee shop and read. Eventually you start seeing some of the same people over and over and it’s much easier to meet new people like that. If ya like sports, find a little sports bar near home. If your more into the “intellectual” scene, a nice coffee shop is always good. Of course, once school starts you shouldn’t have any problem meeting people with similar interests but until then, if ya find a small place close to home that you can go relax you can meet people that live close by with similar interests. The smaller the place the better because they tend to have more “regulars”. And don’t shy away from the older folks. I’m not saying befriend a grandpa and take him partying but it’s always good to know people no matter how old they are and the older people tend to be more established and reliable when ya really need something. For example, if your car tears up, that retired guy that you speak to every morning would probably know a good, cheap mechanic or he could even know enough to help ya himself. Just start out close to home because you will not only meet people you can hang out with but you will also find that some of those people will be resources you can call on and that’s very helpful when you’re on your own. Lastly, Cal, I love your sister to death and Cole is such a sweetheart! I’m only an hour away an don’t mind the drive so if there’s anything I can do for ya, just let me know. Good luck to ya!

  2. Yes, I very definitely have a suggestion for him, especially since I have been in his shoes before and, to an extent, am in them now. Also, because I am his father.
    Do not worry about making any new friends now. You already have an abundance of them that you can rely on in practically any situation, close by and not so close by.
    School is supposed to be a place to “party and sprout your wings,” as well as get an education but you have pretty much passed the “party and getting out on your own” part so go to school and concentrate only on that. The way the job market presently is you need to do the best you can. Also, as you continue your education also begin your “networking” so that you will have the contacts when you graduate. By doing such, you should have a pretty good idea of what you want to do, where you want to go, and most important of all, who to contact to get there.
    Also, re any new friends you may acquire at school, if you are meant to meet them you will…as you very well know.

  3. That’s actually some good advice thanks ash I do apprciate. As far as helping out I’m sure to make my own way. But thanks.

  4. maybe look into the intramural program at the university. it might be helpful for meeting new people that are interested in the things you are. also, cal is concerned about keeping fit, so the sports and activities will take care of that end.

  5. well, I’m in that situation… kinda… I’m not in a big city, but back here in Hudson. The first thing you have to realize is that people will act differently towards you because of your service. Some will be extremely thankful, some very bitter, and some will look down on you for serving our country. My advice is to keep your head high (but not too high) and know who you are. This is hard to put down in txt so call me sometime if you need to talk.

  6. Sign up for and join a few groups that match your interest. They’re all over the country, and they have something for everyone (sports, singles, indie films, young professionals, hiking, coffee, and much much more). Most groups’ events are free or cheap. There’s no obligation; get updates and go to what you want. It’s a great way to do group activities and meet like-minded people. And lots are going to an event for the first time, so there’s very little pressure.

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